How to Have a Pinterest Wedding When It’s Your Second Wedding and You’re Middle-Aged

I just got back from Key West celebrating my second anniversary. I still feel like a newlywed; albeit an inappropriately old newlywed, as I like to say. So to celebrate my anniversary, I thought I’d look back a little bit and write about how helpful Pinterest can be for wedding planning, even for midlife brides.

I’ve written before about how much I love Pinterest. In fact, I wrote that first sentence and didn’t come back to this post for 30 minutes because I opened Pinterest “for research” and got distracted. That’s a pretty common occurrence for me. But, it’s all too easy to caught up in “Pinterest Perfection”: the belief that anything you try from Pinterest isn’t any good at all unless it’s as perfect as your inspiration pin. And it can seem like a young woman’s game, particularly if you’re a midlife bride planning a wedding. I just did a search on Pinterest for “midlife bride” and the pickings are still pretty slim. They were even slimmer when I was planning my own wedding two years ago.

We weren’t planning a big wedding, but I did want it to be special. As both the bride and wedding planner, I had a few goals for our big day:

  • Stress Free! There would be no staying up all night the night before my wedding making centerpieces for the tables.
  • Cost Effective. There would also be no four-figure flower bill. Flowers were strictly DIY. But easy DIY. See point 1.
  • Reflecting Our Personality. Casey and I both share a strong love of music. I wanted our wedding to reflect that wherever I could weave it in without being too “theme wedding”.
  • Love (I know, but still). I wanted the day to be a reflection of our love for each other and our love for the friends and family we asked to share the day with us.

And I had a final goal that I was a little embarrassed about. But it was important to me.

  • I wanted to wear a long white dress. I wore a tea-length plain white cotton Laura Ashley dress to my first wedding. There are a lot of reasons why that happened, but the bottom line is I always felt cheated out of my princess day. I didn’t need a full-fledged princess day, but I wanted a long white dress that was appropriate for a 52-year old woman. I also didn’t want to show my arms. Nobody wants to see the bare arms of a 52-year old woman.

My Pinterest board is called My Secret Dream Wedding Board. That might be because it started its life as a secret Pinterest board that I started before I even met my husband. I just think you always need to be ready for success, you know? Once I finally got the guy lined up, though, I started using it in earnest as an actual planning tool.


I took that one step further. My florist was the local farmer’s market and I made my beautiful niece make the bouquet. I think you’ll agree she did a fabulous job. We also eliminated the stress of making elaborate centerpieces by not having centerpieces. Pinterestformiddleagedweddings I used a variety of Pinterest pins as inspiration for adding music-related elements to reflect our personality to our event. I took this pin:

and used as a very literal inspiration for the invitations I created.weddinginvite

And these pins are so prevalent on Pinterest that the baker I used had actually made a cake like this before ours:


She was also, sweetly, unfazed by our advanced age. Here’s our interpretation. cake2 The lyrics on the cake come from the song we walked out to as man and wife, This Will Be Our Year by The Zombies. Casey and I dated for a little bit in college and then remet 30 years later so the chorus, “This Will Be Our Year, Took a Long Time to Come” has a lot of meaning for us. As for the white dress appropriate for a middle-aged woman? It took a few pins to cobble together just the right look. First, the actual dress.

But I hated that thing on top of it. So I replaced it with a vintage cashmere cardigan because pins like this convinced me that was a viable thing:

And I can’t find a specific pin, but somewhere along the line I became convinced I needed a pop of color so I added a sash.

Here’s the final result.

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My wedding day was one of the happiest days of my life. The venue where we had the wedding is a lovely French restaurant in Atlanta, Atmosphere, and the food was so delicious. It tasted like love, I swear. As a wonderful added bonus, the building had, in a previous life, been my father’s office so I could feel his presence blessing us even though he’s no longer with us. You can’t find that stuff on Pinterest. But a pretty cake and a princess dress can help make a special day even more special.

19 Comments

  1. October 28, 2015 / 7:01 am

    I’m going to pin this! Love that you started your board as a secret board and I love your dress. Almost makes me wish I didn’t elope the second time….almost.

    • Katy
      October 28, 2015 / 7:40 am

      Thanks Jennifer! Eloping is definitely a lot cheaper – probably should have included that in the post 🙂

  2. October 28, 2015 / 9:00 am

    I had no idea what a Pinterest wedding was until I read your post. Interesting! Oh and by the way? You are still a newlywed. I wish you many happy years!

    • Katy
      October 28, 2015 / 9:12 am

      Thanks Carol! I still feel like a newlywed. 🙂

    • Katy
      October 28, 2015 / 11:29 am

      Thanks Marcia. It was a lot of fun and nice to relive it.

  3. October 28, 2015 / 11:37 am

    Pinterest wasn’t around for my second wedding- I wish is had been. However, like you my second wedding was the wedding of my dreams and low drama.

    • Katy
      October 28, 2015 / 12:07 pm

      So much better without the drama, isn’t it?

  4. Helene Cohen Bludman
    October 30, 2015 / 10:32 am

    I love your wonderful story and your photos are just fabulous! Taking notes because I’m planning my daughter’s wedding for next May.

    • Katy
      October 30, 2015 / 10:42 am

      Tell your daughter Best Wishes from me. Have you guys started watching all the TV shows yet? They’re such a hoot.

    • Katy
      October 30, 2015 / 10:45 am

      I needed that cardigan! It was 55 degrees that day so I was very glad to have it. My sister would want me to tell you that she made the sash and I was very grateful to her. 🙂

  5. October 30, 2015 / 2:45 pm

    WOW! You look beautiful. You have to love Pinterest right? I love the wedding cake what a great idea. Thanks for sharing.

    • Katy
      October 30, 2015 / 2:47 pm

      Pinterest is great even for those of us who might be just a tad older than the standard bride 🙂 Thanks for the kind words – it was a lovely day.

  6. July 6, 2016 / 4:10 pm

    Katy, thanks for sharing your great ideas! When my hubby and I were prepping to tie the knot three years ago, I scoured Pinterest too for second time around weddings. Your dress is gorgeous and perfect for you! We ended up having three small receptions, (I think it’s on Pinterest how I pulled that off), with one at the church (helps to have an 11am Thursday wedding–no alcohol, just cake). The second reception was three days later in San Diego where most of our families live, then third was at our windsurf campground. Alcohol flowed during those, and so much fun to celebrate three occasions with different folks!

    • Katy
      July 6, 2016 / 8:58 pm

      That’s so awesome! Thanks so much for sharing and if you’ve got a post or photos I’d love to see them.

  7. July 9, 2016 / 12:57 am

    So pleased you had such a wonderful day – it all looks supremely happy and your dress is beautiful. You made me smile with the bit about not showing arms though – why are we so paranoid about that? I am too but then I see some REALLY seriously dodgy arms everywhere in summertime and then I think mine aren’t so bad! Still won’t have them bare though! Am pinning…

    • Katy
      July 9, 2016 / 7:23 am

      Thanks Gilly! In the end I’m glad I had a sweater because the day was seriously chilly. But I suppose I gave in a bit to my insecurities there. At the time you seriously could not find a brides dress that wasn’t strapless – I’m happy to see they’re bringing back a bit more variety now.

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