31 Days of Holiday Self-Care, Day 10, Have a Date Night

31 Days of Holiday Self-Care, Day 10, Have a Date Night

You can go solo or with someone special.

Relationship counselors advise couples to schedule a regular date night in order to stay connected as a romantic couple. The holiday season can so easily turn into a mass of obligations that you end up attending side-by-side, but not together: work parties, church services, family events. I know you’re thinking of something right now. And if you’re not in a relationship right now, attending all these required events alone can make you feel disconnected from your most important relationship —  the one with yourself.

So tonight, my challenge to you is to blow off whatever event you’ve got scheduled and to take a date night instead – either with yourself or with your sweetheart. And treat it like a real date night. Dress up and wear your date-night underwear. See a movie or play and talk about it afterward over dessert and coffee. If you’re alone, definitely do the same thing and take yourself to dinner as well. Ask yourself if you’d like an appetizer and then enthusiastically answer yes.

If you have an event tonight that you absolutely must attend you can still turn it into a secret date night. Tell your sweetie you’re dressing up just for them and then tell your host that you’re so sorry, but you absolutely must leave early due to important family obligations (true!) so you can sneak off for a quick drink or coffee. Date night can even be a movie on your sofa as long as (very important) no one is wearing sweatpants or black leggings and (my personal failing) everyone stays awake until the end of the movie.

The point, as you see, is to carve out a bit of time to reconnect with your sweetheart or yourself. Advanced students may wish to attempt a Clive Bixby/Julianna scenario, but I cannot be held responsible for your results. I definitely want to hear about, though.


This is part of my 31 Days of Holiday Self-Care Challenge. To see all the posts in this series, visit here.





  1. Helene Cohen Bludman
    December 11, 2015 / 9:44 am

    What a great idea. Too often we let everything else take priority, don’t we?

    • Katy
      December 11, 2015 / 9:46 am

      Yes you’re so right. I can cheat because I know about my posts in advance 🙂 but I’m going to really go the extra mile in trying to look nice tonight.

  2. December 11, 2015 / 11:51 am

    I so prefer a date night with my husband to a myriad of holiday parties – I’m all over this! 🙂

    • Katy
      December 11, 2015 / 12:20 pm

      Have a great time! I’m looking forward to a little time away from the party scene myself.

  3. December 13, 2015 / 2:28 pm

    This idea is a great way to build an emotional bank account with our partner. Then, in times of conflict, we have e reserve from which to draw!

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