Tidying up your empty nest can be just the spark of you need to ignite the next phase of your life.
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Did that previous paragraph make you sad? I got a little weepy writing it. But there’s good news! Now is a great time to turn your newly empty nest into a home that reflects who you are now – and who you want to become.
I recently discovered a book: The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing by Marie Kondo. It’s been a bit of a sensation for the past year or so. It’s a New York Times best-seller and I’ve read countless other blog articles about it.
Could a Book about Organizing Really Change Your Life?
The first sentence of the book is mildly ambitious:
In this book, I have summed up how to put your space in order in a way that will change your life forever.Marie Kondo, The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up
Marie Kondo promises that if you follow her system you will never revert to clutter again and, as an added bonus, you can attract dramatic changes in my life such losing ten pounds, attracting new business, and gaining new love.
I’m not being flippant or sarcastic. I completely believe her and here’s why.
Why Tidying Up is the Perfect Activity for an Empty Nester
The KonMari method consists of going through every item you own (in a strictly defined order), holding each item in your hand and asking yourself, “Does this spark joy for me?” If the answer is yes, then keep the item and store it beautifully. If the answer is no, thank the item for its service and give it away.
Sounds a bit new-
That’s the perfect activity for a new empty nester! As moms, we so frequently must put our kids’ needs ahead of our own that we can find ourselves facing the empty nest having lost our sense of who we really are and what truly makes us happy. Looking at everything you own and deciding whether it sparks joy helps you get in touch with your true self once again.
You’re also practicing the art of realizing that your life has changed over the years and that an item that once served you beautifully no longer fits into your life. When that happens, you let it go thankfully and gracefully. What a great way to prepare for the next phase of your life without children at home!
The KonMari Process in a Nutshell
So what is Marie Kondo’s method, which she calls the KonMari Method? To appreciate it, you really do need to read the entire book – a short easy read; but here are few highlights:
- Before you start, visualize your destination. Where do you want to be when you finish your organizing process? What is your ideal lifestyle and why do you want it?
- Focus on one category at a time, not one room or area at a time. The best sequence is clothes, books, papers, miscellany and finally, mementos.
- Discarding must come first. When you begin to organize, gather everything from the category you are organizing, place it all on the floor and go through it all. Discard everything you don’t need and then, only when you are done discarding, begin putting things away.
- As you go through all your belongings, ask yourself: does it spark joy? If the answer is no, don’t keep it. It’s as simple as that.
- Save mementos for last. If you start with mementos, you’ll get too bogged down in memories.
- Make Tidying a special event, not a daily chore. If you a do a little a day, you’ll never finish. Although she doesn’t say you can organize your whole home in one big job; she estimates it will take about six months to do it right.
The KonMari Journey Starts Now!
I’ll admit that this is something I need to practice, so I’m embarking on a huge tidying project of my own home. I’ll share my journey with you as I go and I hope you’ll follow along as well.
As a sign of my commitment to this project, here’s something truly horrifying: the current state of my closet. I think you’ll agree that this isn’t something that sparks joy every morning when I get dressed. Wish me luck on my journey!